For some people, this perspective may leave them feeling the need to be in control due to not having any in past relationships.
Or the fear they have experienced in the past could cause them to be overly cautious, quiet or struggle to engage.
Either way, it is important to understand that what has happened historically can, if not managed, cause difficulties in the present.
Being aware of your own journey and that of your partner can help shape your conversation.
Take time to check in with how each other is feeling and make an effort to understand the pressures that could be impacting the conversation, each person’s level of engagement, and the decisions that are being made.
Below are examples of how understanding your partner’s trauma can shape your response.